There’s No I in Uterus

I was pretty proud of myself when I first came up with the name of this blog. It hit the intentions of this process spot-on, that the uterus inside me could be used for more than just my own purposes. I could join with another person or couple, and collectively we’d have one big happy … Continue reading There’s No I in Uterus


V’yikareh Shema B’Yisrael: And Let Her Name in Israel Be…

When I first became a mother more than ten years ago, I took on the practice of lighting an extra Shabbat candle for my daughter. On our first trip to Israel together as a family, when she was just three months old, we went to see our friends at the Baltinester Judaica shop in Jerusalem. … Continue reading V’yikareh Shema B’Yisrael: And Let Her Name in Israel Be…

All Packed Up

My hospital bag is packed. I’ve got the requisite comfy clothing, toiletries, snack food, possibly a beer… and the pre-birth order that was just approved, mandating that Vivianne and David be listed as the parents on the baby’s birth certificate. Those aren’t actually their real names, though. We agreed to use different ones for the … Continue reading All Packed Up

This Fetus is Kicking My Ass

Bringing you a follow-up to the original husband post, this time from his very own blog, Mental Health Safe Space. Click the link below this excerpt to read the post in its entirety, and poke around while you're there. It's well-worth the read, in my completely unbiased opinion.   By Jamie Bornstein This fetus is … Continue reading This Fetus is Kicking My Ass

Contracts… All 64 Pages

With all the feel-good, change-a-couple’s-life emotion of my surrogacy so far, the truth is that I spent almost as much time on the contract phase alone than the entire time I’ve been pregnant up until this point. After my medical, psychological, and beit din screenings, and after matching with Vivianne and David, I selected an … Continue reading Contracts… All 64 Pages