If there’s one word that makes me uncomfortable as it relates to my surrogacy, it’s ‘selfless.’ I know, I know. I must seem like sour grapes, but there’s just something about it that rubs me the wrong way. Selfless. Without self. Could that really be? True, much about this process is not about me. I’m … Continue reading Selfless


This Fetus is Kicking My Ass

Bringing you a follow-up to the original husband post, this time from his very own blog, Mental Health Safe Space. Click the link below this excerpt to read the post in its entirety, and poke around while you're there. It's well-worth the read, in my completely unbiased opinion.   By Jamie Bornstein This fetus is … Continue reading This Fetus is Kicking My Ass

Contracts… All 64 Pages

With all the feel-good, change-a-couple’s-life emotion of my surrogacy so far, the truth is that I spent almost as much time on the contract phase alone than the entire time I’ve been pregnant up until this point. After my medical, psychological, and beit din screenings, and after matching with Vivianne and David, I selected an … Continue reading Contracts… All 64 Pages

But Won’t You Get Attached?

People ask lots of questions when they hear about my surrogacy. This doesn’t bother me. For the most part, the questions come from a place of curiosity and just wanting to learn about this genuinely odd thing I’m doing that is far from commonplace. One of the most frequent questions I get is, “But won’t … Continue reading But Won’t You Get Attached?

Unexpected Convos with my 4-Year Old

When I first started this process, I decided I didn’t want to say anything about it to the kids until I became pregnant, when it felt like there would actually be something to share. I knew they’d be excited but also a little unsure of how they’d react and if the transfer didn’t work, or … Continue reading Unexpected Convos with my 4-Year Old

Achievement Unlocked (Tomorrow, Anyway)

Milestone (nearly) achieved: I’m celebrating wherever I can these days, and this seems like a big one. Tomorrow night officially marks 12 weeks’ gestation, a.k.a. my LAST NIGHT OF SHOTS. Yes, since I started writing this blog on December 11, I have had at least one, if not more, needles going into my body. … Continue reading Achievement Unlocked (Tomorrow, Anyway)

Moving Forward

After sharing the news of the interesting turn my journey has taken, here’s what you responded with: Offers of food Actual food A note in the Kotel Offers to watch my kids Prayers (complete with my Hebrew name) Offers of flowers, sushi, or chocolate Love A pussyhat Facebook comments Facebook private messages Text messages Rallying … Continue reading Moving Forward